When my young assistant told me this for a while I did not understand as to how I should react to it. But then soon I gathered my wits and consoled her with the obvious words “well! Never mind! You will find someone better”!
I told her that I will treat her to a delicious dinner tonight and maybe we can watch a movie before that. She was pleased to hear this but I knew deep in her heart she must be pained for she genuinely liked that guy. Heartbreak is an odd kind of pain. You are not sick, neither are you dying but it still hurts so much. The worst part is that the person who appeared to be most caring at one point of time in your life turns out to be the cold hearted person you never thought he would become.
when you get hurt
I feel one should come out strong after such episodes in one’s life. There is no point in nursing an anger or hurt for I strongly believe in the fact that whatever happens in this life, it happens for some good. If you just forgive and forget then it will be much easier to move forward.
After having had a nice evening, I came to drop my assistant home and while she was making coffee, I placed a small gift for her on her coffee table. It was a book called ‘The Art of Racing in the Rain’.
With a cheery goodnight wave I left her place and sent a small prayer to God to make her feel better soon. Cheers!
Few days back, i happen to bump into my childhood friend Augusta. We were neighbors once. Long back my parents shifted to this new locality and i had sort of lost touch with this friend. I remembered her as a smart , slim and carefree girl which she was not any longer. Had she not called me by my name, i would have just passed by her as another stranger. After initial greetings, i asked her to do the catching up over a cup of coffee. Just around the corner we found one small coffee shop and after settling down on the chairs, first thing i asked her was, how and why had she put on so much weight?! Normally i would have restrained myself of asking such personal question, but somehow we can take liberty with the childhood friends…yeah?!
She was pretty amused by my query…” well what do you think could be the reason” asked she.
I said ” maybe you were taken ill…some hormonal problem..what else??”
” Actually Clarissa, i eat a lot and please don’t ask me why…i just love eating. Whenever, i feel agitated or uneasy over something i rush to the kitchen and eat and that gives me a sense of peace.”
Well! i had read so much about this kind of syndrome and i knew that this was a kind of problem number of people suffered from. I wanted to help my friend and asked her to meet me again next week at the same place. Most of the times people do not accept their flaws and wrong lifestyles until someone points them out for them. I told my friend that what she was suffering from was a kind of disease and i plan to help her. I managed to take out some time to visit a nutritionist and also went to few libraries and collected some write ups on eating disorders and how to get out of them.
During our next meeting we lounged comfortably on pouffe seats in one corner of the coffee shop and there i told her how she can get rid of her habit by following certain diet and exercise plans which included little meditation as well. Augusta was very cooperative throughout and appeared quite serious to take the challenge. I gave her all the collected literature and the diet chart and we made a pact of meeting once a month for one year and see how she is progressing in loosing the extra pounds. She was very happy by my concern over her health and i sort of had a feeling that she will definitely make a serious effort to get back to her original self.
I strongly believe that we become what we want to become. Loosing weight is not a big deal what matters is strong determination and will!