I kept looking at the telephone, waiting for it to ring, but it did not. I could have easily dialed the number from where I was expecting the call but the thought why should I do that first would just not let me budge from my chair.
I am not the only one, but most of us exhibit this kind of behavior many times in our lives. Basically the reason behind such behavior is not that we have extreme patience, it’s just that our ego is sometimes too inflated. There is this urge to be recognized as a person who is considered as someone special and of importance, who comes with the skills others lack. And believe me it is self-destroying!
This three letter word holds you back from saying the words which you are dying to say. It would not let you do things which a level headed person would just normally do. Maybe the person on the other side is also going through the same dilemma. Waiting for my call and making small round imprints on the luxury bathroom rug with his toe! Someone has to take that first step and bridge the gap. Someone needs to build the bridge. So why not I? I can’t be that bad of an architect anyhow!
I picked up the receiver and dialed the number…
“Actually, I got dumped”
When my young assistant told me this for a while I did not understand as to how I should react to it. But then soon I gathered my wits and consoled her with the obvious words “well! Never mind! You will find someone better”!
I told her that I will treat her to a delicious dinner tonight and maybe we can watch a movie before that. She was pleased to hear this but I knew deep in her heart she must be pained for she genuinely liked that guy. Heartbreak is an odd kind of pain. You are not sick, neither are you dying but it still hurts so much. The worst part is that the person who appeared to be most caring at one point of time in your life turns out to be the cold hearted person you never thought he would become.
I feel one should come out strong after such episodes in one’s life. There is no point in nursing an anger or hurt for I strongly believe in the fact that whatever happens in this life, it happens for some good. If you just forgive and forget then it will be much easier to move forward.
After having had a nice evening, I came to drop my assistant home and while she was making coffee, I placed a small gift for her on her coffee table. It was a book called ‘The Art of Racing in the Rain’.
With a cheery goodnight wave I left her place and sent a small prayer to God to make her feel better soon. Cheers!
I have had the opportunity to travel very far and wide. While one of the travels, an old Korean woman happen to sit next to me in a flight. She was taking a solo flight back home after visiting her daughter in the USA. Though she was bit reluctant to start a chat with me, maybe because she was not very comfortable in English, she finally opened up and started telling me about her family. It’s a strange human phycology, that we don’t mind sharing our happy and sad moments with total strangers. She had a lot to tell and I was enjoying every bit of whatever she was telling me in her fragmented language. Her name was Lee Shun Si. What I could make out about her life was that after getting the higher education from the US, her daughter decided to stay and pursue her career there. She, having lost her husband long back was living in Seoul along with her son and his family. She was happy and contented with life and her only desire left was to see her daughter get married to some decent chap. I somehow feel that the family bonds in the Asian culture are very strong. The flight was long; I also shared some moments of my life’s journey with her. I told her that I would break journey in Seoul for two days before I catch my flight for my final destination. She was pleased to hear that and gave me her address and asked me to visit her place while parting ways on the airport.
Next day after having had a good sleep in a hotel, i went out to explore the city. Seoul is a beautiful and finding her place was not a difficult job. She was pleased to have me at her place. I liked the culture of opening footwear outside and then she introduced me to her son and his wife who looked beautiful donning an cotton kitchen apron and busy preparing delicious dishes. After our introductions were over, we sat around a low table to have a meal. Sitting cross-legged and having a meal with rice as a main dish was yet another new and pleasant experience for me. Their life style was simple and yet impressive. I was really fascinated with this whole set up and made a mental note of having that kind of low dining table for meals in my place back home as well.
I had wonderful few hours of my life with them and was happy to make new friends. When I wished them good bye they were all smiles and with a promise to be in touch with them, I bade them goodbye!
Hi There! I would like to share something which came to my knowledge just few days back. Someone very close to me was sitting next to me on the sofa and was surfing the internet. And suddenly she yelled and hid her face with both hands. The sudden yell, startled me and I looked at her, thinking what on earth is wrong with her. My first reaction was to have a look at the window which was open in her laptop. There was a small box advertisement about some skin ailment and its cure. The picture was surly not pleasant, but definitely nothing to be scared of. One could see deep holes in the skin, clustered together and it was kind of creepy.
I gently removed her hands from the face and asked her what the reason of such a strong reaction is. I could see that there were goose bumps all over her body and she was kind of shaky. I pulled up the throw blanket to make her feel warm and cozy. Now, why this girl with such a balanced personality could get anxious with a mere unpleasant image was beyond my understanding.
I gave her a glass of water and when she was little calm asked her what was wrong with her. What she told me was something absolutely new for me. She said that once earlier also she had seen this kind of image in the internet and she had the same kind of reaction then as well. She said I find such things very creepy and just one look at such things makes me shudder, feel itchy and physically sick.
I got concerned after hearing this and tried to find what this is all about. After some research, I got to know that this is a kind of phobia called TRYPOPHOBIA which means fear of holes!
“Not all holes, just tiny holes in asymmetrical clusters, often times with things in them can trigger this fear”. In such cases fear and disgust goes hand in hand. And the strange thing is that people suffering from this phobia are growing in number these days.
Now the question is how to deal with this kind of fear. Maybe analyzing your own thoughts and thinking with rational mind might help to get over it. Meditation is also a very good tool for mind and thought control.
I look forward to ideas that can help in getting rid of this phobia. Please share your thoughts as they would be very useful.
( I have not added the images purposely, they may not be pleasant for many)
Fantastic read! This book by Rujuta Diwakar, sports science and nutrition expert about losing weight without giving up the food you love to eat is worth a read. I have gone through books dealing on this issue by various authors but I simply fell in love with this one.
I would love to share few simple rules to eating right. What we need to change is not the food but our lifestyle. Eat what you want and shed those extra pounds….isn’t this cool!
Few things that need to be kept in mind are:
1 Always eat the moment you wake up: never start your day with tea or coffee.
Simple logic behind this is that the blood sugar level goes down when we sleep and if we have a fruit or something equivalent in the morning it helps to elevate the blood sugar levels. After a little gap you can have that cherished cup of coffee.
2 Eat every two to three hours a day.
In order to increase our metabolic rate eating a small portion from our daily diet is going to help tremendously. If the gap between the two meals is more, then it can be a cause of indigestion and acidity. What we need to do is split our large meal into small portions and have it after two hours gap. Not only will we be having all the nutrients but this also helps in burning the fat.
3 Eating should be directly proportionate to your activity levels.
Fair enough! If we are just lazing around or are doing sedentary kind of work, then we can cut down on the heavy meals instead we can have something light but if we are mentally and physically involved in hectic work then the amount of food we have also needs to be in accordance. The golden rule is never let your stomach feel the hunger pang and also do not cross the line and over eat.
4 There should be a minimum gap of two hours between the last meal and bedtime.
Logically we should have our last meal around 7pm. After that our stomach slows down and wants to relax and proper justice is not done to the food we have. But practically if it is not possible then whatever is the last time for the meal, it would be better if we sleep after two hours of having it.
5 Don’t follow those fads of extreme diets – they are not sustainable and just don’t work.Anything which we cannot follow lifelong is wrong for the body.
6 All kinds of foods are good as long as you are eating the right quantity at the right time. Never go on a diet, what you need to do is modify your life style.
And last but not the least is that exercise is nonnegotiable. Unless you exercise don’t expect to see miracles, despite the good eating habits. Yoga, walking, swimming, dancing, aerobics any kind of exercise for two hours thrice a week is must.
7 Try having your meals on a dining table. Enough of it having slouched on a couch in front of television.
I am personally following these tips and have seen change in my body. Let’s enjoy our lives to the fullest by inculcating these valuable tips. Cheers!
I hundred percent endorse this statement that we become what we think. A negative attitude leads us nowhere and under the same circumstances if you go ahead with a positive attitude you come out as a winner.
One of my acquaintance was taken ill few months back. She was to be operated for a simple hernia but during the course of the operation doctors found that she had strangulated hernia which meant that many parts of her intestine were bad and needed to be operated. The operation which was supposed to finish in half an hour continued for nine hours. when she was wheeled out of the operation theater she was altogether a different person. I could not recognize her and i was shocked to see her condition. Doctors put her on DI list i.e. dangerously ill list.
She was in the ICU and selected few were allowed to meet her. When she gained consciousness and realized her physical situation, she smiled despite the pain she was going through. When doctor approached her and asked how she was feeling, what she said still rings in my ears. She said” Don’t worry doctor, i shall overcome this and very soon will get well”. Doctor was very pleased so see her this attitude. He said you have done your part in winning this battle now its for us to see that we send you home hale and hearty.
After eleven days of staying in the ICU she was removed from the dangerously ill list and it took her nearly two months to be shifted in the normal ward. I visited her in the hospital and was very glad to see her gaining strength. She was keen to leave the hospital and wanted to get back home now. She asked me to draw away the curtains from the window so that she could have a look at the blue sky and the birds flying high. When i was about to leave her doctor also came and looking at her he said that she is alive today only because of her will. She never for a single day thought that she might not survive this surgery. He said that in his long career as a doctor he has not seen many patients with this strong determination to live.
Now she is back home and is living her life well with her children and husband. Needless to say , i too have learned a very important lesson from her.
Cheers! Stay happy!